Detoxifying From Toxic People

             Detoxifying from people can be one of the hardest but most necessary acts of self-love. Breaking those ties often requires more than setting intentions and performing a cord-cutting ritual or other workings, whether it's a romantic relationship, a toxic friendship, or even a family connection. While spiritual practices are powerful tools for initiating and supporting the process, the truth is that true release demands physical effort, emotional processing, and intentional healing. 

            Cutting cords may sever the energetic connection, but what happens after the cord is cut and removed? There's a hole- a wound, even- left behind that must be healed. If left unaddressed, that void can easily fill with something just as harmful, or the same cords can reattach, rooting themselves deeper than before. Detoxing from people means doing the work to grieve, release, and rebuild in a way that creates space for something healthier to grow. Let's explore this process in more depth and look at practical ways to detox someone from your life. 

The Truth About Cord Cutting Rituals and Healing

Many people believe cord-cutting rituals are a quick fix to toxic relationships, but these rituals are just the beginning. When we energetically remove someone from our lives, we must also acknowledge and release the emotional, physical, and even spiritual patterns that person brought into our lives. 

For example, if a toxic partner was tied to your sense of validation or unworthiness, cutting the cord without healing that wound can leave you vulnerable to seeking the same validation elsewhere- or allowing that person to return. The same applies to friendships or family relationships that eroded your boundaries. Cutting the cord requires a commitment to honoring your boundaries moving forward. 

Cord-cutting is like pulling weeds from a garden. After you pull them out, you must tend to the soil, plant something new, and ensure the weeds don't grow back. Otherwise, the same energy patterns can take root again. 

Practical Ways to Detox a Person

Detoxifying from someone is a multi-layered process. Here are steps you can take to ensure the detox is thorough and healing: 

1. Grieve the Loss: Even if the relationship is harmful, it's normal to feel a sense of loss. Acknowledging the role this person played in your life and allow yourself to feel whatever emotions come up anger, sadness, regret, or even guilt. Journaling, crying, or speaking to a trusted friend or therapist can help you process these feelings. 
2. Clear their Energy from Your Space: After cord-cutting, take physical actions to remove their presence from your life: 
   1. DELETE THEIR NUMBER and block them on your phone and social media. 
   2. Declutter your home, removing items that remind you of them. This could include gifts, photos, or objects tied to shared memories. 
      
   3. Cleanse your space both physically and spiritually. Use spiritual tools such as smoke cleansing, Florida water, etc to remove lingering energy. 
3. Reclaim Your Time and Energy: One of the most significant challenges after removing someone from your life is reclaiming the time and energy you used to spend on them. Redirect that energy toward yourself: 
   1. Create a daily routine of self-care, such as meditation, exercise, or creative expression. 
   2. Take up a new hobby or revisit something you loved before the relationship. 
   3. Surround yourself with supportive people who uplift and encourage you. 
4. Fill the Void Intentionally: The space left behind after removing someone is fertile ground. Be intentional about what you plant there. Instead of rushing into another relationship or filling the void with distractions, take time to nurture yourself. Set clear intentions for what kind of energy and connections you want to invite into your life. 
5. Practice Boundary Reinforcement: Detoxifying someone is as much about keeping them out as it is about removing them. Here are a few ways to reinforce your boundaries: 
   1. With Others:

      Be clear about what you will and won’t tolerate moving forward. Practice saying "no" without guilt, and if the person tries to re-enter your life, remind yourself why you let them go and stick to your decision.

   2. With Yourself: Hold yourself accountable for maintaining the boundaries you set. Avoid romanticizing the relationship and replaying "what if" scenarios that make you second-guess your decision. When thoughts of them arise, redirect your focus to your goals, healing, and the new energy you're cultivating in your life.  
6. Move Your Body: Emotions and energy can get stuck in the body, especially when we're holding onto pain or grief. Moving your body is a powerful way to release stagnant energy: 
   1. Dance to your favorite music. 
   2. Take long walks in nature to ground yourself. 
   3. Try yoga, focusing on the heart-opening poses to release grief and hip-openers to let go of emotional baggage stored in the sacral chakra. 
7. Work with Healing Tools and Rituals 
   1. Take a spiritual bath with ingredients like sea salt, rose petals, and rosemary to cleanse your aura. 
   2. Carry a talisman or amulet designed to protect your energy. 
   3. Use crystals such as a black tourmaline for protection, rose quartz for self-love, and selenite to clear lingering energy. 
8. Seek Support: You don't have to go through the process alone. A therapist, life coach, or trust friend can help you navigate the complexities of detoxing from someone 

The Power of Intentional Release

Detoxing from someone isn't just about removing them from your life- it's about reclaiming yourself. It's a declaration that your peace, well-being, and growth are more important than holding onto toxic patterns. By grieving, releasing, and healing with intention, you create space for new, healthier connections and a stronger sense of self. 

Remember: this process takes time. Be patient with yourself as you heal, and trust that by doing the physical, emotional, and spiritual work, you're building a foundation for a more empowered future. 

With Love, 

Hounsi Fredasi 🌹

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